What I Don't Understand

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Goldeniangel
Goldeniangel
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There are a lot of things about this site that I'll never understand, but I have found that most of them center on the readers...

For instance, there seem to be a lot of readers that go around reading stories that they know they won't like and then leaving degrading remarks on the stories. They're too cowardly to leave a name, but for some reason they think that their remarks should get respect... even when a person does leave a username, you often travel to their bio to find out that they haven't written anything either. If you can't even write your own stories, why are you going to go through and pick out flaws in fantasies? Try it yourself and see how much you like it.

Also, reading a story in a category that you know you don't like just seems like a waste of time to me. I've gotten so many comments like, "You sick person, how can you even imagine having a wife and husband enjoying having sex with other people?" Um... it's in the Loving Wives category. That's kinda the criteria... and why on earth are you reading a story about Loving Wives if you think it's sick that people would do that? Now, I can understand the honest mistake that the Loving Wives category is about women who love their husbands dearly... when I first came to the site that's what I thought. However, the error is pretty obvious right away, and then if you don't like the stories then don't read them!

The same goes for Interracial stories... I've actually gotten INCREDIBLY racist comments about how I'm destroying my race by writing these Interracial stories. Well, for those interested, I'm an abomination cuz I'm already half-white and half-Asian. Granted, I don't have any black in me (and that's what seems to really incense these racist readers), but I'm definitely not "pure". I understand that you're racist and don't like to read about different races having sex because you think that humans are somehow different because of skin color... again, the smart thing to do would be to NOT READ THIS CATEGORY. Sometimes I think that this "pureness" thing must mean that there's a lot of inbreeding going on or something because the people who leave comments like that seem to be remarkably stupid.

And for whatever reason, every single one of these people thinks that I'm going to heed their opinions... ummm, no? My stories, I'm writing them... if you want something different then YOU write them! What a novel idea!

Another thing I don't understand... the generalizations. I had someone leave a comment about how all the stories that they've read by me have involved the girl getting degraded, etc. And then they said that they'd read a "few" of my stories... how many is a few and in what categories? Yeah, I have a large portion of stories like that, it's true... they're mostly in the NonConsent, Group Sex and BDSM categories. However, if you try out categories like Erotic Couplings and Romance... I think you'll find that those stories are more to your taste. Doesn't that make sense???

I really and truly don't understand how people's minds work with this... I always thought I was pretty good at getting inside people's heads, but how is any of this logical? The only thing that I can think of is that they actually get secret pleasure out of these "disgusting" stories and then feel guilty so take it out on the authors. And no, I'm not just speaking of me, the Author's Hangout bulletin board is full of complaining about stupid anonymous readers who make cruel comments and are complete jerks.

My absolute favorite though is when I'm accused of either being an egotistical abusive male or a sick gay man who needs help.

Does ANYONE bother to check that I'm a woman? Apparently not the stupid ones.

I have to admit, I'm also not always sure why people like my stories... some of the ones that I've liked the most have been the lowest rated, and some that I was unsure I even wanted to post because I wasn't sure if it was good were the highest. However, I have found that I understand something, and that is that positive feedback makes me incredibly motivated to write more... even if I can't write back to everyone that writes to me.

I have also found that it is quite possible to blush over a comment or an email... and also to be made incredibly uncomfortable.

Writing erotic stories is very hard, and I wonder that many people even continue to do so with all the assholes that read. I can only conclude that they, like me, have been blessed enough to receive feedback from people who love their work and that they continue to write for these people and despite the negativity that others try to push on them. Why people think that degrading others in comments is less offensive then a fantasy where someone is degraded is beyond me...

So says the abomination who happens to like writing degrading stories (and occasionally romances). Can I get a hell yeah?

Goldeniangel
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VerbalAbuseVerbalAbuse7 months ago

people enjoys themselves leaving comments.

if you cannot grant them that, disable commenting.

BiologoBiologo8 months ago

I haven’t posted stories here but empathize with your situation. Without in any way excusing the boorish feedback, I can suggest a way that some of those readers end up reading from a category they detest: contests.

I have learned before reading a contest entry to visit the author’s story page first to see what genre it has been assigned. Having failed to do that in the past I have read a few stories I found abhorrent; no, I didn’t unload my vented spleen on the writer. Why Literotica doesn’t always (ever?) include genres in the seasonally themed events I don’t know but it may be the reason some people read stuff they hate. What they do with that hate is on them, though, not the site or you.

I’ve learned to avoid the cruelty and degradation—especially where it seems to be prolonged and indulged for its own sake—but I won’t judge what I don’t understand, especially if it assists you or others process demons.

mattpantyhosemattpantyhose10 months ago

I had always been certain that "Loving Wives category is about women who love their husbands dearly". I had never read any story from that category, so I had no chance to learn about my mistake until today. :D Shouldn't the category be renamed to "Hot Wives" though?

But that thing aside, I have mostly the opposite experience with comments on Literotica. Or to be more specific - the lack of those. Sure, I had had a few hateful comments here and there, I even found some of them rather amusing, like "This is horrible, you should stop writing." But the number of hateful comments is a small percentage of all comments, and there are very few of those in general.

I'm simply upset by the lack of any reaction from most readers. Someone had told me that Chyoa is better in that regard, so I posted my stories there as well, but it turned out that readers there also don't leave comments. Oh well, maybe that's just how reading erotica goes.

But to return to your topic...

We are all just perverts here, on our own device. ;-)

AnonymousAnonymousover 1 year ago

I am adding this comment anonymously for no other reason than I am an author here and have no desire to be hunted by trolls. (yes that's sad but true), I will say I have over 100 works posted on Literotica and have been writing here for over 20 years so have had my fair share of feedback.

I was researching this section as I am thinking of writing one for here and wondered what authors wrote. I came across this piece and as I read found myself agreeing with so many of the words, muttering under my breath, "Yes that's right," and "wow that has happened to me." I was shocked when I scrolled through the comments to see that this was written over 17 years ago and I can tell you... nothing has changed.

Like many writers, we accept the fact that not everyone will like what we write and some of the criticism is justified. However, when someone goes out of their way to seek out something they know they will hate just to have a rant, that worries me about society.

What I would say to you Goldeniangel is what my friends say to me when I get a nasty comment, "ignore the haters and keep writing, lots enjoy your work, just look at your ratings." I know that is sound advice and looking at the numbers you have written it looks like something you have done, so well done sister. I also know how much nasty comments can sting and for that, I am sending you a big HUG.

dmallorddmallordover 2 years ago

Hell Yeah, right back at you! This was a wonderful rant! I am relatively new to Literotica.com and have a few stories that seemed to be well received, but as you note, there are some comments that just 'raise my hackles' and come from anons or someone who hasn't made an effort to try writing their own stories! Having poured my heart into my first epic novel of 17 pages, one ingrate remarked 'that being good at putting words together doesn't justify 17 pages of dribble ... no idea what that meant to the writer, but it sure let some wind of out my writing sails for a while. - I got over it. But more to the point, I see that you haven't let them get to you! Bravo!

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