Who's First: Boyfriend Or Husband

What will a wife do for her boyfriend but she would not consider doing for her husband. An interesting question: one that I was musing over the other day. To explain, my wife Sue and I have been married for eight years now, for the last two, with my encouragement she has been dating. Initially on one night stands but for the last eighteen months she has been seeing the same guy. In other words, my wife has a regular boyfriend.

Our lifestyle may seem unusual to some but it suits us, both of us are career people and no desire to have children. The problem with being career focused is you tend to find the job takes over your life. Both Sue and I were finding to often we only had a couple of evenings a week when we were together and then more often than not we were too tired to enjoy a lovemaking session.

It all came to a head when, upon returning from a conference trip, Sue admitted she had an affair whilst away. I should have been angry and ended our relationship. Instead I found myself aroused and we ended up having passionate sex. Afterwards we talked long into the night and realised if we were to stay together, Sue needed the freedom to find the physical release she could not get from our marriage. For me the idea of my wife seeing other guys was a big turn on and I encouraged her not to be inhibited in having sex with other men. For myself, I had no desire to stray from the nest.

At first, Sue went out on one night stands, either men she met in hotels when away on business or at singles bars. That was until she hooked up with Mark. A muscular, six foot guy with a coal black body who is the owner of the fitness gym my wife joined. The odd date has progressed to a new level over the months. This brings me back to my original question.

What does a wife do for her boyfriend that she would not consider doing for her husband? Sue now sees Mark at least two nights during the week. Six months ago she started to stay over with him on a Friday or Saturday night. Last Christmas, she informed me she would now be staying with him on both Friday and Saturday nights. She reassures me she loves me....but she is in love with Mark.

Again about six months ago she asked me if I minded if she stopped wearing her wedding rings as she wanted to show Mark her relationship meant so much to her. As a demonstration of my agreement I removed them myself and placed them on her dressing table, where they have remained ever since. For Christmas Mark gave her a diamond dress ring which she has chosen to wear on her wedding finger. Sue made no explanation to me of her decision and I did not challenge her. I just accepted it as another example of the importance she places on her relationship with her boyfriend. Plus it fuels my masturbatory fantasies.

Sex between us was fairly vanilla. Sue only wanted to do it missionary style and normally with the lights out. She has recently confided to me that Mark is more adventurous. She regularly sucks him off. Something she refused to do for me. He also has taken her anal cherry.

The reassurance I have is that Mark does not want to commit to a full time relationship and gets a kick out of knowing my wife prefers to be with him. For me, knowing my wife seeks pleasure elsewhere is a big turn on and I do not want to change things from the present arrangement. That is apart from the fact my wife no longer is prepared to have sex with me. She says Mark's larger penis has stretched her and she is sure she would no longer feel me in her and therefore would not get any pleasure. That is one thing I wish my wife would do for me but she now keeps sex exclusively for her boyfriend.

When Mark come to pick her up from our house. She throws her arms around him and kisses him passionately, whilst his hands caress her pert bottom. I wait, watching quietly until they finish before speaking. It seems impolite to me to interrupt two lovers from showing their desire for each other. I also notice Sue refers to her boyfriend with terms of endearment such as darling and love. Her greetings to me now seem limited to just my name.

I do still sleep in our master bedroom; however Sue keeps the second bedroom made up so she and Mark can sleep together on the odd occasions he sleeps over.

Occasionally we go out as a three some. On such occasions Sue will always hold Marks hand and if we have a meal will sit next to him with me opposite.

Last month I went away for two weeks on business. I did not have to worry about Sue being at home on her own as she stayed the whole time at Marks. She dropped me off at the airport on the day I went away, her bag in the boot so that she could go straight to his apartment.

Upon my return she greeted me at arrivals looking radiant. Her unfettered breasts, obvious under her pink top moved freely. Her boyfriends diamond ring glinting on her hand under the airport lighting. I discovered to make the most of the time Sue had come straight from his bed and not been home in the whole two weeks. I placed my bag next to hers in the boot. Driving home, she confided she felt naughty as she could feel Mark's cum leaking into her panties. This only added another hard on to my constant 2 week erection imagining what my wife and her boyfriend had been up to whilst I was away. Particularly as she got me to agree we would not ring each other except in an emergency during that time. I have no problem with Sue doing things exclusively for her boyfriend. It is in one sense humiliating but also exciting with the hint of danger that I could always loose her if things went too far. Perhaps it's the danger of this that makes me keep pushing Sue to be more involved with Mark. The dread but also the humiliation of her one day telling me I no longer had a place in her life as that space was only for her boyfriend.

The experience of going shopping with your wife, helping her to choose erotic underwear or a dress purely on the basis of what will please her boyfriend without any discussion as to whether I would like to see her in such garments keeps me erect during those expeditions. Normally when wearing her purchases for the first time she likes me to assist her getting dressed. Sue's comments as I help slide a new thong up her legs of "think, the next hands to remove this will be Mark's" usually gets me scuttling to the bathroom as soon as possible in order to find manual relief.

For Mark's birthday last month, Sue organised a dinner party at Mark's house for his close friends who are aware of our unusual arrangement. I was invited and experienced being the total voyeur, standing in a corner, watching then spend the evening as a couple. The humiliation of everyone knowing I was Mark's girlfriend's husband and that she preferred, in their company, to share intimate gestures of holding hands and occasional kisses with her boyfriend rather than her husband. The ultimate humiliation was my leaving with the other guests. Being bade goodnight and a safe journey home at the front door. Then, when I turned at the end of the drive to wave goodbye, seeing them with arms around each others waist. Knowing they would soon be adjourning to Marks bedroom where Sue would provide him will a more intimate present than she gave earlier in front of the guests.

Last week, summer holidays came up on the agenda. Sue and Mark are now talking about going away on holiday together, they would rent a villa and I have been invited to stay in the second bedroom. My first thought is imagining hearing them make love every night through the wall. Then there is the fact that they will be on holiday as a couple and I will be the gooseberry.

Maybe this moves our relationship to a new level but I think I will take them up on the offer. In the past Sue has tended to wear fairly conservative swim suits. I wonder if I can perused her to buy something more risky for Mark's pleasure.