All Comments on 'Alan Was Alone'

Yet another amazingly powerful tale. What a truly wonderful gift you have.

I don't know how you do it. You have an uncanny ability to get right to the root of the situation. Loved it, keep on writing.

I go to give you a 100% for being unique. Thanks

<p>I've seen people who tried what this story suggest go horribly wrong for the people. Take a divorced buddy I know who was lonely, and keeps trying this ideal out, and this has kept caused him to make a lot of mistakes. To this day. Using him for example:</p>

<p>He was married for 16 years. His wife was sleeping around on him with the neighbors, his best friend, and joined a swingers group without him. He was willing to take a <b><i>badly</i></b> one sided divorce where he assumed all debt from the marriage, paid alimony, and child support to her even though he had primary custody of the children and they lived with him, so she could continue her lifestyle. He hoped she'd quickly get tired of this lifestyle and come back to him and they could rebuild their family. When I asked him why he was willing to take this much abuse, he said it was because he didn't want to live alone and be lonely</p>

<p>While trying to rebuild his life after he moved to a new city (one city over), he met his new next door neighbor. She was nice and came over and spent time with him. He babysat her children and when she had a problem with her car he co-signed a loan to get her a new (used) car and then paid it off for her. He would go to her mother's house and pick up her son for her. Then one day he calls me up, upset, and I found out that she told him she only liked him as a friend, she now has a new boyfriend, and for him to not call her anymore. Then after that he started bouncing checks he found out that she took his debt card (how she got his pin he doesn't know) but she emptied his bank account. It was only after he got a lawyer and they reviewed the bank tape he found out that she was on it using his card. When I asked him why he put up with all of this, he said after the divorce she kept him from bing alone.</p>

<p>Eventually he found another lady and moved in with her, after sleeping around with various different women, only to find out that she was dealing drugs out of her home. When I found out, and it wasn't hard, I told him he needed to get his kids out of that environment. And the answer I got was I can change her and I'm not alone any more.</p>

<p>Another woman showed interest in him so he left the above woman, and moved in with this woman. "This" woman was the "other woman" of a married guy who came down from another state a couple times a month and she was his kept woman. Well he found out that she had a lot of outstanding debt from the "Check into Cash" businesses, which he took out loans to try and pay off for her. He was babysitting her son while she went out with her friends, in addition to his kids, and sat around the house with her when she decided to light up the occasional dubbie. When I asked him why he was assuming all this *new* debt, why was he letting her stay out all night and come home the next afternoon, his answer was because she was with him and he wasn't alone</p>

<p>And he isn't the only one, I've seen stuff happen to a lot of my friends where, because they didn't want to be alone, they made a lot of bad decisions. I glad that you know people who this worked out well for, but I know a lot where this desire to not be alone, and take who ever met the criteria to keep them from being alone, and they took them for a ride. I'm not saying this happens to everyone, but this story makes it sound like the decision to not be alone always fixes any issues that being alone creates.</p>

-Risq

In the years I have been submitting stories here I have deleted five comments. Risq_001 submitted two comments to this story... and voted a 25% on both comments. I deleted one comment. I would have sent him/her a private communication but he/she has chosen not to accept them.

His comments point to his friends who make bad decisions in relationships and therefore my story is unrealistic. Of the twenty couples that got together in the story I tell the reader that two of them are still together. There may be more, I haven't knep track that well. They met in an environment that presupposes they had things in common. They went on their first date to see if a conversation for possibility would have them choose to continue.

Here's what I am sure of... Those who won't take a risk have zero chance at success. That is what they story points to... at least for me.

Is wow...excellent story...

Risc 001 your comments tell us a great deal more about your friends than their chosen women. My mother always taught us there are two sides to every story even a best friend cannot know what happens when the front door closes yes there are bad women around but there are probably an equal number of bad men. You pay your money and you take your choice. The story never claimed that everyone had a happy ever after. Lonliness is one of the plagues of our modern world and as the story showed it is often because we are afraid to make a mistake. Remember the person who never made a mistake never made anything.

Fine storytelling, Scorpio. Thank you.

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The core truth of the tale is that relationships take effort if they're going to work. Risc's counter-example shows what happens when a partner puts forth no effort to make the relationship work. They're toxic, and like most waste, need to be cleaned up. Whenever the couple really relates to each other, it's the best thing in the world. When they don't, it's the worst. Not even being lonely is as bad as that.

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Scorpio's Alan tells us some real truths. We're the arbiters of our fate. It's up to us to find happiness. If we let our fears, our insecurities and our complacency make us remain silent, we have no one but ourselves to blame. It's not the fault of our parents or our siblings or our friends or our pastors or our teachers or anyone else. It's our fault if we're lonely, and it's up to us to change it.

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My thanks again, Scorpio, for a story well-told.

Words can be powerful and with consideration sometimes life changing. Motivation to take a chance to be hurt can be difficult but life can be more than it is if one wants to take that chance.<P>

Not everyone needs a mate but if the reason is fear of failure than take another look in your mirror. I see someone who needs to feel more value in themself - that deserves the opportunity to fail or succeed without self prejudice predicting the outcome.<P>

Long ago we had a president who said that the worst decision was none at all. Being wrong was second but it help assure that the next decision would be better. He knew that life could be harsh but that making mistakes was part of growing above them.<P>

Author - you take chances and express them so well that if just one person decides to grow through a possible mistake then thats a good thing you have provoked.<P>

With Very High Regard

<i>How Imaginatively Constructive - Applause Author

Words can be powerful and with consideration sometimes life changing. Motivation to take a chance to be hurt can be difficult but life can be more than it is if one wants to take that chance.</i><br>

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Scorpio,<br>

You know I love your stories... no matter if they are about 'loving friends', or are in the BDSM genre, or any other genre You choose to put them in. Sometimes after the initial reading, the point may escape me (I can think of one instance), but then I usually go back and read it again and it becomes a little clearer.<br>

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You have chosen a topic that some readers may be dealing with/experiencing in their real lives and if they are like me... the story will strike a chord and instead of sitting on their/our collective "butts"... we will go <u>DO</u> something about it instead of continually moaning, groaning, and complaining.<br>

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BRAVO! my friend... BRAVO!

Your stories are often so real they're scary. Nice job!

Scorpio this was simply superb. A clever tale well told and unlike most others on LITEROTICA having just the right balance of love to make it truly a masterpiece. You continue to light the way for other lesser writers with yet another glimpse of your brilliance! Pete.

You wrote: "Most of you are not in a relationship because you live in a myth about relationships. Relationships that serve the people in them are active creations. You wake up in the morning, roll over with a day's growth of beard and morning breath and open your eyes to see someone with no make up, messy hair and morning breath and you say, "Good Morning Sweetheart, I love you." The "I love you" isn't something you found under the blankets, you created it in the face of her or him not being Brad Pitt or Jennifer Aniston. You create it every day by saying it and spending the rest of the day making it so." --- To me, this is the heart of this tale. Why? Because it's flat out the truth. Most folks do live in a 'relationship myth', which is fueled by the advertizing industry, as they whisper in your ear about how ‘Brand X’ will do it all for you. What they don’t tell you is that you still have to take an active roll in this creation. — (Climbs down off soapbox.) Thank you Scorp. I’ve never read a truer tale and I thank you for posting it. Warmest regards.

That is one powerful bit of writing and so damn true - until now I have never considered life and loneliness in those terms and what to do about it. Now I understand what needs to be done - thank you. When you think about it the answer is so simple - get off your arse and do something about it - be positive not negative - the trouble is though.......... BE POSITIVE!!!!!!!

A wonderful idea, wonderfully presented.

love the premise - not so sure the impetus of the moment would be big

enough to overcome years of ingrained mental habit pattern. however a

novel and enjoyable read - many thanks.

This is the first time I have read of this lesson;one my dad taught us by his example with our mom ( 60 + years ago ) .

Thank you for helping spread the message so well.

I will be reading a lot of your other stories for a while : )

I know that you are right. In my life I have loved enough women to have been married 10 times. Things happen and I married twice. I have always felt I could have been married to all of them if things had worked out at the time. I could have loved and been loved by all I am sure. You just have to work at love.

What an inspiring tale. Time to stand up and be recognized. Take a chance. Put yourself out there. Damn it sounds like I'm starting a self-help book.

Great tale.

This is love in the real world. No one is perfect, everyone has flaws. You have to be willing to move pass the flaws to find perfection.

and a great idea to get people together....

Great! Maybe overly simplistic but GREAT!

THANKS !

Thanks !

Wow! Not simplistic. Just a lot easier than we make it. Thanks!

Great life lesson, Thanks for making it so easy to understand.

Ed

Wonderful to find this story in the midst of all these wonderful sexual stories that I also think are mostly wonderful reading. If I wasn't married to the same wonderful lady for 62 years, I'd be in our singles group standing up and looking around. This is wonderful, well written and so true. Good job!

tgc, 84, S.Ga.